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I noticed that one article noted that it can also take as long as 14 years before the aversion developed in siblings who didn't start early life together.
So with that you might have an argument for Bobby and Cindy, but not really for Peter and Jan and not at all for Greg and Marcia (staying with the example). And how does this aversion apply to the Aunt/Uncle to Niece/Nephew relations, or cousins? Hell we can't even assume that there will be an age difference nowadays. My wife's niece has 2 aunts and an uncle who are younger than she is (my wife's half siblings by her dad's second marriage). Now, for full disclosure, they actually did grow up together (the half-brother and the niece are only 3 months apart. There's a funny story my sister-in-law loves telling about that period) so the aversion is most likely there by all observations. However, if they hadn't grown up in the same area, where would that all fit in? And even if they had, what if the aversion had not developed?
I also noted this passage:
Unsaid, but equally true, it would not stem from abuse either. The abuse argument would seem to only really apply to...well abuse, for which there are already laws. For which I would certainly agree, should such happen, regardless of when the abuse occurred, that the abusing sibling (I won't assume the older, although I concede that would be the most likely) should suffer the consequences. But like all other abuse cases, the state must prove the abuse.
As to the first part, there really isn't a time that is known for "younger siblings" though. More and more women are being encouraged to breastfeed past 1 year, and breastfeeding and other such care would seem to be a very big trigger. And no intimate relationship should develop unless they are older, certainly old enough to develop the aversion, unless someone was trying to develop the relationship earlier.
Aunts, uncles, and cousins would likely be different, depending on the family. I have an aversion for many of these such family members, especially my cousins because they were raised so close to me, I saw them almost every day of my childhood, was loved and disciplined by my aunts and uncles, considered my cousins siblings (heck, I had one living with me for about 2 years, claiming her on my taxes, plus several have lived with my mother throughout their teens and twenties)(and I was there at the hospital when my older cousin had her son and her twins, we went to the same high school).
And you misunderstood what that line was saying about the aversion. It basically was talking about those siblings/relatives not raised with each other to pick up the cues. Plus, a person doesn't have to have a malfunctioning brain result from abuse. It can simply be manipulation to prevent the aversion from taking hold, even if the person doesn't know anything about the actual aversion.