I wish the church would take the same stance about children.
"To waste, to destroy, our natural resources, to skin and exhaust the land instead of using it so as to increase its usefulness, will result in undermining in the days of our children the very prosperity which we ought by rights to hand down to them."~ Theodore Roosevelt (Message to Congress, Dec. 3, 1907)
You have gay friends? "Friends" that tolerate you calling them 'fairies', 'homos' and other derogatory slurs? "Friends" that enjoy your company when you call them the end of society? "Friends" that feel good about themselves when you accuse them of being subversive or tell them that they're going to burn in hell?
You don't have gay friends. You have barely tolerable acquaintances who are decent enough that they have so far avoided punching you in the face.
"If I take death into my life, acknowledge it, and face it squarely, I will free myself from the anxiety of death and the pettiness of life - and only then will I be free to become myself." ~ Martin Heidegger
If you want to tell yourself it's tolerance, whatever, but it's not tolerance. It's the exact opposite.
And don't go on about how it's "something I don't understand", because I understand it fully well. You saying it's something others don't understand is just you trying to justify what you think.