The behaviors that many of the stories talk about are things that I have experienced as a parent. However, that these parents gave up on their kids makes me sick, and makes me wonder what kind of people we have in this country. If it's not easy, send them off! I would never, ever consider doing that to my kids. For all we went through, I would never "re-home" them. I can't even understand the mindset that does do that. When you adopt these kids, they are your kids as much as if they popped out of your wife's vagina or not.
It's taken 4 years and claimed my marriage as a casualty, but my kids now getting to normal. As hard as it's been, I wouldn't ever sacrifice them for myself.