I don't disagree with that in theory and understand the inequity here. But men are just bigger and stronger and because of that have a greater obligation towards self control because the outcome posses greater risks. I happen to practice the ethic you endorse but on a larger scale I have to promote more self control on the mans side.I think all human beings need to exercise the necessary self-restraint to avoid practicing physical or emotional abuse on their spouse.
I don't disagree but where does personal responsibility come into play. If you are an abused man or woman and you just take it you have some culpability.A woman hitting is just as wrong as a man hitting. It is assault and battery; it is illegal; and furthermore given the disparity of force you've mentioned it is UNWISE in the extreme... and it is unfair that many men end up in prison after RESPONDING violently after years of abuse
Let me just make one thing clear. Women are gonna hate me for this. But I think a lot of women are bat **** crazy. But still think that men are obligated to back down.