"With me everything turns into mathematics."
"It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well."
"It is truth very certain that, when it is not in one's power to determine what is true, we ought to follow what is more probable." -- Rene Descartes
If this were my father, I would rather him have been killed in action rather than return and disgrace us this way.
You're assuming here what you think I assume.
And I don't think you can really compare someone coming out as gay with someone undergoing gender reassignment. Explaining that you are interested sexually/romantically in the same gender is NOT the same as changing your gender. And let's be frank about the kids. It's asking one helluva lot to expect someone who has loved you as mommie or daddy to accept that you are no longer mom or dad. I'm not saying that the love will die, only that it's extremely challenging and expecting a lot from a kid.