"It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to." - W. C. Fields
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When a person who is a part of our life dies, understanding the uniqueness of this loss can guide us in finding the support we will need and to recognize when help should come from outside family or friends.
When someone under our care or someone we'd like to help experiences a loss, this understanding is essential. Thus we can guard against a temptation to compare or to judge their grief responses to our own. The awareness of those factors that affect the manner, intensity and duration of grief, should enable us to guide the grieving person in seeking those forms of support suggested by the nature of their loss and the unique way it affects them.
The human brain does not limit us to what we can use this for. Society tries to limit us (i.e. you must be miserable when bad things happen to you). The fact is that you don’t have to be…the brain allows a person to take a more calm approach to something if a person knows how to use their brain this way. Anytime we lose anything that we want there is grief (sadness). RLT does not believe that grieving takes any specific amount of time or that you must go through certain stages. When a person knows how to counsel themself rationally there is often a better outcome with respect to how much misery a person has to go through. Being appreciative about what we have or had because there are no guarantees. This is often where people go wrong. When a person does not get what they think they have coming to them they damn the world and themselves.
The advantages of acting more calmly to our practical problems has more advantages no matter what the issue is. You will feel better (not miserable), because you feel better you are in a better position to make rational decisions and reach your goals. This does not mean you have to accept what has happened but rather if you respond more calmly to your situation then you are in a much better position to do something about it.
Rational Living Therapy & Stoic Philosophy
"God is the name by which I designate all things which cross my path violently and recklessly, all things which alter my plans and intentions, and change the course of my life, for better or for worse."
-C G Jung
And what you learn as a grief counselor is that just about any response is "valid."
What remains so sad to me is somebody who's clearly very young and immature sitting in judgment in such a cruel and callous way.