To her Wall Street owners: Hillary Clinton: “But if everybody's watching, you know, all of the back room discussions and the deals, you know, then people get a little nervous, to say the least. so, you need both a public and a private position.” - Hillary Clinton: "I'm kind of far removed from the struggles of the Middle Class"
One who makes himself a worm cannot complain when tread upon.
As for "federal recognition", I've stated many times that there would be no fight over the official piece of paper if it wasn't a passport to tax benefits and bonuses from government. Strip away the government's use of the document as a way to engineer society and you won't have gays clamoring to get the paper, hell, you won't have straights wanting the paper any longer.
From my perspective, if people are so much in love that it overcomes all reason, let them get married all they want to whomever they want as many times as they want - just don't give them government bonuses for doing so.