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yea. i was concerned about that, tooSure - you don't get the emotional and psychological impact. . . that's fine.
What do you mean mean by 'I am not even considering support as the basis of my position' - that's what this whole issues is about: who pays child support? the bio fathers after 12 / 14 / 16 years . . . or the father figure who has been there for 12 / 14 / 16 years and those girls grew up knowing as 'dad - our provider'
To me - the damage is done when the father they HAVE known says 'see-ya - don't care about ya - someone else who doesn't know you at all can provide for you - not me - not my concern suddenly' . . . he shouldn't be allowed to stab the girls in the back like that.
he has been these girls' father for up to 16 years and then he goes to court to disavow them
can't even imagine how much that must hurt
worse than being disowned, because even then 'ownership' was once recognized
and my speculation is this fellow did not know or even suspect the girls were not his own until his estranged wife exposed that ugly truth to him once the marriage was found irreparable
can't imagine how much that would hurt, either, knowing that the kids you had helped feed and raise for 16 years were from the seed of another man. that he had been so deceived for 16 years has to cut to the quick
so, in all of this, we see that there are definitely no winners. the kids are deeply hurt and left to the custody of their deceptive, whoring mother. and the father, feeling wronged, betrayed the unconditional love of his daughters
the whole situation sucks. but the judge made the right call