Thank you, Quazi!
No, because they should know who their biological father is. They should know who that person in front of them actually is to them and who they are not. If they are not the biological father the kid should know it and not be lead to believe otherwise.For medical purposes, sure. They already know who their father is.
I love my father more than anything and if I found out he wasn't my biological father I wouldn't really give a **** - it would alter my relationshp - but it would NOT remove the fact that he IS my father.
My boys know that their dad isn't their biological father and they don't give a rats ass - he's their father and was before he adopted them.
Those children carry his mannerisms, probably say the same jokes he does, and have nothing but a lifetime of memories of him being their father - DIVORCE DOESN'T END THAT and neither does the fact that they were biologically fathered during an affair.
A screaming comes across the sky.
It has happened before, but there is nothing to compare it to now.Pynchon - Gravity's Rainbow
There is so little information in the article that it's difficult to interpret what is actually happening.
Usually men object to child support in the United States when the support payments are set so high that it seems the court is punishing him for being a father or the court is helping the ex-wife extract revenge on the men she hates so much. It is doubly painful for a man when he arrives in court thinking that he might be equally considered for custody and finds that he doesn't even receive a reasonable visitation award, resulting in the next eighteen years of his life being spent living in a studio apartment in order to support a cheating ex-wife that treated him like a piece of crap while he tried his best to hold the marriage together for the sake of the children. Further pain awaits while she turns the kids against him and denies his court ordered visitation. The American courts will not enforce a father's ordered visitation rights, nor punish the ex-wife for refusing to allow him to see his own children, consequently, the children become her weapon. The father does get punished severely if he doesn't write that support check, however.
Most American men walk, decent husbands and fathers, walk out of divorce court devastated by how they were treated by the court. That glass ceiling that women are always complaining about is nothing like the brick wall a man encounters when he tries to get custody of his own children.
The point is that more facts are needed in this case prior to damning the poor bstrd who put up with a cheating whore for all those years.
Last edited by Ray410; 02-07-13 at 12:36 PM.
Even though it's not spousal support, there is no question that a portion of child support inevitably provides benefit to the former spouse and not the children.
They know that my now-ex-wife is not their biological mom. They remember her a little bit (not as much), and they know that her name is Mariya Simkova. She's their mom.
WHO YOUR PARENTS ARE IS NOT DETERMINED BY WHO SHOT THEIR LOAD INTO WHOM!
But that he contested child support and doesn't have custody now tells us he's probably already cut emotional bait. This is purely about financial support, the emotional support is already gone.