Yes, I realize this, but like I told you last time acting in the role of a father is not the same thing as being the father of the kids. The court was wrong and its just that simple.He is not the biological father of three of his four children. The court is demanding, rightfully, that he pay child support for those three anyway because they are still his children.
Then again... I would never be tricked into raising a child that wasn't my own-- biologically-- because I would never raise a child on the sole basis that it's got my DNA. If I ever become a father, it will be because I want to have children, and hopefully because I love their mother. The latter might change, especially if she's been cheating on me for years, but the former never will and a paternity test cannot break the bond that exists between a father and his children.
As for your other question... no, I can't say that I would feel like I'd been cheated or stolen from. I want children, and I want a family, but I don't believe anyone is entitled to give these things to me. If I'm not married to the mother, then there's a good reason why I didn't marry her and at least some kind of reason why she didn't tell me about the child. I might wonder about what might have been, but the child's rightful place is with its family, not with strangers.
Last edited by Korimyr the Rat; 02-07-13 at 11:56 AM.
Why do people assume that because he didn't want to pay child support for kids that are not his own that he doesn't love the kids? How is the one automatically the other? It seems to me all he is doing is saying those kids are not my kids and I do not want to financially support them. Perhaps its not the nicest thing to convey, but it doesn't mean he doesn't love them.
Raising kids has all that loving heartfelt crap that goes with it. And then there is carrying on your lineage. If the kids didnt come from his nuttsack they arent his. A court trying to make him pay goes to show you that attorneys are spiders and the common populace are flies. Marriage is a giant conspiracy we force upon kids. Either you will be together with someone forever or you wont.
Its up to the mom to find the real daddies now. This guy needs to have his resources available in case he tries to actually spread lineage for reals and have it actually count this time. He didnt volunteer to adopt a kid. He thought it was his descendant.
If he wanted to keep raising the children as his own that would be his choice but shouldn't be forced upon him.
Last edited by dirtpoorchris; 02-07-13 at 12:01 PM.
Is society was made of coral our world would be floral.
It is a 100% BS situation that turns any idea of principle or fairness on its head, but that is our government at work. If the baby doesn't look at all like all the other babies in your family in some way or the other, get the DNA test before you ever acknowledge the child as yours......