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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by Capster78 View Post
    This is painful!! People are jumping all over this guy for trying to find out if his kids are his or not.
    Actually, and I could be wrong, but I thought I saw somewhere that the three girls had this man listed as their father on their birth certificates, and that before this divorce, and the ensuing revelations of the wife's cereal infidelity, he raised these girls from birth as their father. No one is jumping on him for finding out, but rather the cold and callous way that he just tosses them aside after finding the information that he is not biologically their father, even if he is in every other way.

    Not only is he having to pay child support for them...
    He has supported them as his own for 16 years now, and the girls had no part in their mother's reprehensible actions in the marriage, so why should that support stop?

    but his wife is being rewarded for adultery.
    How so? I am not aware of any alimony being awarded her in this case, we are talking about support for the children.

    This is why I tell all the young guys I know are still single to stay single.
    Not all women are this woman.

    This is the kind of thing that comes out of the misandric society we now live in.
    Maybe, and I don't know how Canadian courts are ruling, but here in the US, more, and more men are winning in these cases.

    If the tables were turned and it was found that the man had cheated during his marriage no matter the circumstances, the man would have the book thrown at him.
    We don't incarcerate people for adultery, so I don't know what you mean by "having the book thrown at him"...

    But this woman cheated on her husband and she is being rewarded with it.
    Again, support is for the children, so how is she being rewarded?

    Where is the man that she had these other kids with?
    Don't know that, but if he has not been in their lives at all, and not shown to have anything to do with them other than donating the sperm, then what does he matter?

    Why is the man that was cheated on having to pay for another mans kids?
    Up to this point in their lives, they were not another man's kids, they were his in every way, including support. Now because he got hurt in this, you want him to be able to shirk that?

    Why is this woman not being scrutinized?
    She is. Otherwise we wouldn't know about her affairs. I think most rational people would surmise that her actions in the marriage were reprehensible.

    We don't punish son's in this country for the sins of the father, and likewise, these girls shouldn't be punished for the actions of their mother.
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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by dirtpoorchris View Post
    How is this man expected to bring up 2,3 or 4 more of his lineage if hes stuck paying for some other dudes genetics? Infringing upon his rights to bring up kids from his own nuttsack leads to possible oblivion. Your blood descendants continue you and all your fathers and mothers before. Her lineage (wife) is already continued as these kids came out of her vagina. It is wrong to force the guy to continue someone elses blood lineage. This might as well be nobles impregnating the peasantry.
    Nonsense. This guy raised these girls as his. His name was on their birth certificate. And up to this point they have only known him as their father. Now because DNA testing shows that someone else actually donated the sperm to create them says nothing to the bonds, and life they have known as their father, and you seem to be saying that these girls are disposable because their mother committed adultery. Man, that's cold.
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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by j-mac View Post
    Nonsense. This guy raised these girls as his. His name was on their birth certificate. And up to this point they have only known him as their father. Now because DNA testing shows that someone else actually donated the sperm to create them says nothing to the bonds, and life they have known as their father, and you seem to be saying that these girls are disposable because their mother committed adultery. Man, that's cold.
    He may be "as a father" to them but he will never truly be their father. Upon learning they arent from his loins he may choose to act as a father. But to pin this guy for child support because he happened to be there is unfair in itself. It is up to the mom to pick up the extra slack or time to find the blood fathers. If the blood father were to walk into their lives he could rip custody away from him even though he acted as a father. This is the state forcing parental morals on a dude who isn't the real father.... Remember this next time some guy kills his ex-wife and her 3 kids on the news. This is nothing more than a ploy to steal this mans money 'guised as benevolent decisions.
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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by dirtpoorchris View Post
    How is this man expected to bring up 2,3 or 4 more of his lineage if hes stuck paying for some other dudes genetics? Infringing upon his rights to bring up kids from his own nuttsack leads to possible oblivion. Your blood descendants continue you and all your fathers and mothers before. Her lineage (wife) is already continued as these kids came out of her vagina. It is wrong to force the guy to continue someone elses blood lineage. This might as well be nobles impregnating the peasantry.
    Well, they are not 'genetics', they are children. Family law gives their welfare the greatest priority.

    The moral of the story is don't marry a skank who sleeps around if you're concerned about your blood line. Choice of mate is as good a test of fitness as any.

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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by LowDown View Post
    Well, they are not 'genetics', they are children. Family law gives their welfare the greatest priority.

    The moral of the story is don't marry a skank who sleeps around if you're concerned about your blood line. Choice of mate is as good a test of fitness as any.
    So now you are saying we should punish people into caring for children that aren't theirs if they are stupid enough. I thought this was about "doing the noble thing". Having a family shouldnt be akin to getting stuck with a lemon because you signed a contract. Only to find out the very core and reason for the relationship was all one big giant lie. He signed the dotted line saying he bought a porche. But they gave him a pinto. But seeing as he had the pinto for so long hes stuck with it. I would hate to be any of your best friends. I guess the longer you know and care for someone the more okay it is to get screwed over.

    If I thought a tree in my yard was mine for 10,000 years but it turns out it was on my neighbors property line does it make the tree mine?

    I guess the moral of the story is dont be a pussy and demand paternal testing. Even if it would ruin your relationship "because you dont trust her" and make her a single mom anyways. Everyone can claim its for the good of the children but I just see a woman, attorneys and a judge looting this mans pie because they think they have a good enough reason.
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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    This discussion revolves around general principles. We cannot get it right about this specific situation because we are missing most of the vital info. We don't know who ordered/asked for the paternity tests. We don't know what was requested for custody or if there were custody requests. We don't know anything about the birth certificates (not that those really matter here). Heck we don't even know what finally caused the divorce. There must be some reason there's no mention of her getting spousal support.

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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    In all honesty, the mother owes the victim of her fraud some compensation.

    At the very least, she owes him fifty percent of all room and board and ancillary expenses accrued over all those years. She should be held civilly liable for all the harm her deception caused. The actual father owes a great deal of financial support... But that is not, in any way, the concern of her victim.

    The man in this story did not create these children, as a matter of scientific fact. Therefore, he is not financially responsible for their well-being... And never was. To force him to continue to pay any such expenses is beyond the pale. Complete absurdity. Complete travesty of justice.

    The story seems fairly plain. If the law compels the judge to make her victim continue to provide resources for her offspring, then that is bad law, and this case should ignite a firestorm to get the laws changed.
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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    It sure is nice of the court to allow the bio father(s) to pay nothing towards their own children, isn't it?

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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by j-mac View Post
    Actually, and I could be wrong, but I thought I saw somewhere that the three girls had this man listed as their father on their birth certificates, and that before this divorce, and the ensuing revelations of the wife's cereal infidelity, he raised these girls from birth as their father. No one is jumping on him for finding out, but rather the cold and callous way that he just tosses them aside after finding the information that he is not biologically their father, even if he is in every other way.



    He has supported them as his own for 16 years now, and the girls had no part in their mother's reprehensible actions in the marriage, so why should that support stop?



    How so? I am not aware of any alimony being awarded her in this case, we are talking about support for the children.



    Not all women are this woman.



    Maybe, and I don't know how Canadian courts are ruling, but here in the US, more, and more men are winning in these cases.



    We don't incarcerate people for adultery, so I don't know what you mean by "having the book thrown at him"...



    Again, support is for the children, so how is she being rewarded?



    Don't know that, but if he has not been in their lives at all, and not shown to have anything to do with them other than donating the sperm, then what does he matter?



    Up to this point in their lives, they were not another man's kids, they were his in every way, including support. Now because he got hurt in this, you want him to be able to shirk that?



    She is. Otherwise we wouldn't know about her affairs. I think most rational people would surmise that her actions in the marriage were reprehensible.

    We don't punish son's in this country for the sins of the father, and likewise, these girls shouldn't be punished for the actions of their mother.

    You are another one who believes the bio-father/s should pay nothing.

    He has no obligation whatsoever to love those children nor provide for them. I can if he wants to, but he shouldn't have to as a matter of law.

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    Re: Dad must pay child support for 3 kids that aren't his: Court rules

    Quote Originally Posted by Samhain View Post
    In this particular case, its highly possible that the biological father(s) actually didn't know (th)he had a child. Is that person(s) to be punished for not knowing that someone else was raising that child? The answer is no, and the non-biological father is going to be left out of the picture.
    Holding someone responsible for their financial obligations is not a punishment.

    When you create offspring, you are responsible for their well-being.

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