"He who does not think himself worth saving from poverty and ignorance by his own efforts, will hardly be thought worth the efforts of anybody else." -- Frederick Douglass, Self-Made Men (1872)
For example...if a women who you work with shows up at the office party with her girlfriend, I'm pretty sure you wouldn't have to know too many things about what they do in the bedroom to get the picture that she might be gay.
And there might be other indicators as well...such as they might be raising kids together or they might hold hands and kiss.
Just thought you might wanna know...because arguing that being gay is just a sexual act is...well...pretty stupid.
okand no I never said OPEN means rubbing it in someone's faces-most gays (or whatever I should call them these days) have no use for say the flamboyant in your face types who seem to try to shock people as much as possible
"If I take death into my life, acknowledge it, and face it squarely, I will free myself from the anxiety of death and the pettiness of life - and only then will I be free to become myself." ~ Martin Heidegger
I think maybe you missed the point of my post, so let me try & clarify for you.
One I was younger being gay wasnt just about your sexuality, it impacted on your whole life, in fact it could be incredibly dangerous where I lived as there was a very popular pastime in that era known as "queer bashing", where people went around physically assaulting (or in some cases even killing homosexuals).
Even someone like me, who isnt homosexual, risked physical violence, just for having friends who were, & to try & give you a flavor of the atmosphere of that time, & that place, I saw a couple of people, after being "outted", just vanish.
It was that bad, that unpleasant, that dangerous, that these people would rather abandon their home, their job, their families & vanish, than live in a world where people knew they were homosexual.
That was the culture of fear that existed, & the amazing thing was, in that culture, in that environment, some people risked even more violence to campaign to change things, & this is where we start to get to my post.
You see I remember some of these people, & I remember this one day, I remember this one guy who had just had a bit of a beating & I remember him saying something like "One day people will care!" & I remember the answer was something along the lines of "No, the real victory will be the day we've passed all this & nobody cares".
Welcome to my world, I moved passed things a long time ago, I dont care about someones sexual orientation, & certainly not in this capacity. If you think its essential to discuss a politicians sexuality then go right ahead, but I think its pretty stupid, & pretty irrelevant, & I really cant get excited about it.
In the expression, "Are you gay?" the word 'gay' is an adjective and describes an aspect of your overall make-up. In the expression, "Are you a gay?" the word 'gay' is a noun and defines you as that one thing. See the difference?
Using the expression, "Are you a anyone?" would mean that you cannot form a simple question in the English language.
"The crisis will end when fear changes sides" - Pablo Iglesias Turrión
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