Yes but you and I both know we marry those we love (in relation to marital love).
In general, yes. The fact that most people do that doesn't mean its a "Civil Right" though.
The right to marry is also a right to choose who we marry.
To a point I agree, but again...when talking about "RIGHTS" I believe you have to be very careful with language. The Right to Marry is the right to choose to enter into a marriage or not. Now, choosing who we marry may be the case in some instances. However, the Right to Marriage still applies if the marriage was arranged for you (IE you didn't' choose who to marry) because you're still choosing to enter into the marriage or not even though you're not choosing who with.
My point is this on rights.
Rights are generally board. The reason for this is because the more you state a right as a narrowly defined thing the more it then actually places limits on those who can or can't engage in it or how one can or can't engage in it.
The CIVIL RIGHT is that of "Marriage". Of choosing to enter into marriage.
WHY one chooses? Irrelevant. How one chooses? Irrelevant. How one chooses who it'll be? Irrelevant. What is relevant and it boils down to is they have the right to choose to get married.
Now, because everyone has that right that right must adhere to equal protection under the law...which then gets us into all the various things with disallowance of various groups.
But when you start adding things to the right you actually start limiting it.
Notice other people talk about the right to marry their love similar to you that I had no issue with. Why? It's simple. They used it seemingly in a way that it could be considered they were just talking about it in a general sense. You however gave it as an answer to what "CIVIL RIGHT" which, to me, indicated you were directly suggesting it was a CIVIL RIGHT. Not just taking about it in a generalized colloquial sense of the use of the term right in the sense of something people simply can do in general...but rather as some sort of actual, tangible, legal standing civil right in your mind.
That, I take issue with. That's why I spoke my issue with it. Yes is it word games to a point? Indeed. Because when talking about actual CIVIL RIGHTS words
matter.
That was my issue. Not simply the notion of people believing, personally, they have a right to marry whoever they love. My issue was the notion that somehow the "right to marry the one we love" is a CIVIL RIGHT. To me, its not, and if it was it opens up a whole giant ball of wax beyond simply Gay Marriage