We actually tried in my unit to tell Soldiers not to do this at homecomings, but I told my Commander he's either going to damage moral, discipline, or his homecoming, or worst all three. It damages moral because the last thing a Soldier wants to be told after coming back from a year of war is "don't touch your wife, not even hand holding is permitted." So the Soldier is either going to ignore that instruction, and if we don't punish or at least counsel him for doing it ruins our discipline because it makes it look like what we don't enforce what we say and it makes us look like bad decision makers. Or it harms their moral because it sounds like after all this time we are still worried about little things like "public displays of affection" as opposed to letting Soldiers embrace their wives. Or it ruins the homecoming event because no one is going to stick around for the reception to introduce their wives to their best buddies they've met overseas or tell war stories together, or stick around to really honor those who may have been killed or wounded, so it doesn't help our inter-unit bonds and brotherhood between Soldiers and all our families.
So you bar PDAs at homecomings, and what do you get in return? Nothing except you can look yourself in the mirror and go "That Soldier didn't get to kiss his wife, but DAMN IT it in the regulations!!" Personally for me regulations have their place but any good leader knows when they need to be bent or ignored, and good Soldiers know they can trust their leader to do so when its in everyone's interests without violating any Army value like integrity.
I'll give you another example, a Soldier of mine recently had a child who turned out to be deformed and didn't survive a few days after birth. He was going through a lot of ****, and when his wife came to pick him up after I of course gave him permission to leave during the duty day to go with her to arrange funeral services, WITHOUT all the official paperwork of giving him a pass, they embraced as kissed. I didn't do the official paperwork and I didn't stop the PDA, because whether its in the reg or not, now is not the time to say "Excuse me Sergeant, I know you're child just died but I need to go come inside for a moment to fill out this document."
Last edited by Wiseone; 12-23-11 at 04:03 AM.
"To waste, to destroy, our natural resources, to skin and exhaust the land instead of using it so as to increase its usefulness, will result in undermining in the days of our children the very prosperity which we ought by rights to hand down to them."~ Theodore Roosevelt (Message to Congress, Dec. 3, 1907)
Also I never had a problem with PDAs in some situations before gays were allowed to serve openly, if I was in charge of an Army Homecoming and DADT was still in place I would make the same argument I told you about earlier when I was speaking with my Commander. If I had a Soldier I knew was gay I would be empathic towards them, since they would be unable to show affection toward their partner, but I wouldn't say or think "Since this gay Soldier can't display affection, no one can because its politically incorrect."
So anyway back on topic... Where's you're defense of DADT?