Thread: Do we have funeral services for miscarried babies?

Originally Posted by Frolicking Dinosaurs

Good point. As any woman who has ever had a miscarriage can tell you, we do grieve the loss of the child that could have been but was lost, but everyone recognizes that the unborn previable fetus does not have the same legal rights as a full-term infant. State laws do not demand that the lost tissue be buried and social customs do not mandate a funeral be held.

What child, it was nothing more than a bag of cells, right?

I had a friend whose sister-in-law miscarried at 6 months and they did have a funeral. She said they did the complete service at a church and cemetary then afterwards they went to the parents house where they had up pictures of the miscarried baby and ate some lunch. Not ultrasound pictures, but the actual miscarried baby. I thought that to be quite morbid and a little weird. If I miscarried I would not have a funeral service at all but I would want a proper burial.

I think at 6 months gestation, it is called a "pre-term birth" NOT a "miscarriage."

Originally Posted by americanwoman

I had a friend whose sister-in-law miscarried at 6 months and they did have a funeral. She said they did the complete service at a church and cemetary then afterwards they went to the parents house where they had up pictures of the miscarried baby and ate some lunch. Not ultrasound pictures, but the actual miscarried baby. I thought that to be quite morbid and a little weird. If I miscarried I would not have a funeral service at all but I would want a proper burial.

Were you surprised at how much that cancerous clump of the mother's cellular tissue looked like an infant?

Originally Posted by Jerry

Were you surprised at how much that cancerous clump of the mother's cellular tissue looked like an infant?

Dang Jerry. Geez.

Originally Posted by Jerry

Were you surprised at how much that cancerous clump of the mother's cellular tissue looked like an infant?

I didn't see it because I didn't actually go to the thing, I heard about it second hand. Even if I did go I probably wouldn't look at the pictures, as I said, having the pictures out like that was just plain wierd.

So no, I wasn't surprised.

Originally Posted by americanwoman

So no, I wasn't surprised.

(I think he was just using your post to make a general comment concerning the ridiculous claims of some pro-abortion-choicers---it wasn't really to you)

Originally Posted by Summerwind

Gosh, Dino, I have to call you on the idea that "any woman. . . ". There are many miscarriages that women have and never really even know they were pregnant. That aside, I was dancing a happy dance after my one miscarriage. It was my only unplanned pregnancy, I was not intending on aborting it, but it really wasn't a optimal time for an oops of that magnitude. It was a huge relief when I miscarried. I have no doubt that some other women have been equally "fortunate". I will give you that MOST women grieve.

Good point. I amend my post to say 'most' (too late to be able to edit)

Originally Posted by Jerry

I appreciate the kind words, thank you.

Regarding the bolded portion:

However, I still do not believe that my feelings on this matter should determine how my neighbor must handle this situation.

If (and I am only assuming here) you would defiantly hold a funeral to express grievance for a miscarriage, you wouldn't expect your neighbor to necessarily hold a funeral to express grievance for a miscarriage, correct?

No, I do not oppose allowing my neighbor to choice to abort, or to handle any feelings she may have about a miscarriage in whatever way way she sees fit.

While my personal religious beliefs would not allow me to abort, I do not believe my religious beliefs should be the law of the land because I feel the first amendment means that we are not to make laws based solely on religious beliefs.

Currently, previable fetuses are not considered children under the laws in the US - and that is not just laws about abortion. I have often wondered why those who feel life begins at conception and that US laws should be based on their religious beliefs have not attempted to pass laws that give fetuses the sames rights and protections as children instead of attempting to overturn Roe vrs Wade.

Originally Posted by Felicity

(I think he was just using your post to make a general comment concerning the ridiculous claims of some pro-abortion-choicers---it wasn't really to you)

What claims would those be? That if something looks like a human we shouldn't kill it?

Originally Posted by scourge99

What claims would those be? That if something looks like a human we shouldn't kill it?

I eat monkeys!