Thread: Abstinence, a poll

If somehow, it was a requirement to intend procreation only, when engaging in sex...would you follow these new guidelines?

Hey, I've abstained for decades, but I would still say no. Why isn't there an item I can vote for on your list?

Originally Posted by choiceone

Hey, I've abstained for decades, but I would still say no. Why isn't there an item I can vote for on your list?

There is....maybe....please explain.

Originally Posted by tecoyah

If somehow, it was a requirement to intend procreation only, when engaging in sex...would you follow these new guidelines?

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If somehow there was a requirement ....... I would ignore it

Originally Posted by tecoyah

There is....maybe....please explain.

Maybe means "I might," a qualified "yes." I would not support such a law even though I do not perspnally use sex to express affection.

In the past I have used sex for:

• Showing affection
• Showing love
• Making up after fighting over silly s***
• The lolz
• Investigative purposes
• Indulging the inner devil
• Revenge
• Giving me a reason to smoke
• Shame
• Persuading my partner the bed-clothes need changing
• No good reason
• Keeping the neighbours awake when they've let their brat scream all night, six nights in a row
• Politeness
• An excuse not to get up and sand floor-boards

I've now run out of good reasons, so I'm celibate.

My wife had her tubes tied after our third kid, so procreation isn't a valid reason for us.

We have sex for two reasons.
1. We wish to express our affection for each other
2. We are horny.

Generally 1 makes for sweet slow lovin while 2 is just plain fun and is when we play around and experiment.

Neither is wrong so long is its done in a healthy and relationship and self benefitting manner.

Originally Posted by megaprogman

so long is its done in a healthy and relationship and self benefitting manner.

Well, where'd the fun be in that?

Originally Posted by Andalublue

Well, where'd the fun be in that?

Depends on the person I guess. In my marriage, I am finding more and more each day I am in charge (I have no idea how the hell it worked out this way, but it happened) and my wife and I use this role to have some interesting times in bed (which is an upside to this thing, but the whole being in charge thing still baffles me), one thing I am finding out is these roles do work very well for the family and for myself and my wife. I am not inclined to abuse anything and she seems to enjoy knowing that I can take care of problems no matter what. Sometimes I wonder if its because her job is so stressful.

anyway, I guess my mind wandered there, I don't know the answer to your question.