Semantics and one that should be argued in another thread. I happen to agree with you, however, if someone who is pregnant and wants it calls it her baby I'm not going to argue with them.
I have a problem with it, when they say it even in the condition of rape. I have personal known a rape victim that DID get pregnant. She would have slapped Santorum had he said that to her.
So do I and although probably mildly pro-life before, she came to intensely, deeply despise "pro-lifers" to the point of hatred for their slogans they constantly harassed her with and tried to force upon her. Pro-choicers came to her rescue and it became a very intense fight - even leading to violence and arrests on more than one occasion. So oddly, she had scheduled an abortion specifically in fury at the pro-lifers and to PROVE it was HER decision. It was pro-choicers who urged her to pause, get her hatred of pro-lifers out of head, and make her own decision.
It was an unusual one. Learning the ZEF was female, she decided to have the child. However, to deny pro-lifers any victory and to avoid her child ever having such a stigma, she (falsely) declared that actually she was quite the little slut and while she could name some possible men who are the father (some pro-choice men volunteering to falsely be named as potential fathers), she can't be sure because there were so many men - meaning the birth certificate reads the father is "unknown."
In fact, she had been a particularly virgin prudish woman to that point. She absolutely would not allow pro-lifers to claim her as a success. Knowing her as I do, but for pro-lifers getting in her face she probably would not have considered abortion, rather than scheduled one.
No words could describe the level of hatred and contempt she came to have against the extreme anti-abortion people who had tried to get her to agree to be their poster-child.
I had attempted NO persuasion, only offering to do as much or as little to back her up in whatever she decided. I saw it as not only just her decision, but that she should not be influenced in any way. What this came to mean in the end is upon birth I became "legal guardian" of "her" daughter - which she believes became a baby with a soul only upon actual birth and after a brief required waiting period her daughter became "our" daughter when I became her legal adoptive parent.
So I have pretty strong feelings about all of this, like you do.
Pro-life hate and condemnation slogans produce NOTHING good. A ZEF is NOT a baby UNLESS the woman carrying the ZEF says it is.