talloulou

I don't think all prolife women are uneducated nor do I believe they all or even most of them are lacking access to resources available to any women.

I would join 10's NO SEX FOR YOU CAMPAIGN if women were forced to give up birth control and chained to the kitchen sink. I would be irate if my staying home wasn't a choice. If I was forced to not work I'd probably desire a career just to rebel against such a force.

That said staying home is a great choice for my family. I'm a perfectionist with some things. I don't like to half a$$ anything. So, for me, if I'm gonna raise kids I want them to be my number one priority. If I were going to have a career I'd want that to be my number one priority. I'd resent leaving my job to go handle sick kids, I'd resent all the time they have off school, ect if it were conflicting with my career. If it made me $hitty at my job. So I currently choose to stay home for my own peace of mind. My husband is capable of making more $$$ than I am so it makes sense for him to work. If the opposite were true I'd want him to stay home while I worked. My husband is better at his job because the kids and our family don't in anyway genuinely interfere with his ability to do his job. He doesn't have to deal with finding childcare, ect.

As far as staying home goes I found it mind numbingly boring when the kids were little. I had them close together and there was little point in trying to leave the house when they were both babies. But now, that they're older, I'm no longer bored and/or trapped in the house. We spend lots of time outdoors hiking, biking, and what not and I find it rewarding. Now that they also are in school for a huge chunk of the day I have time to pursue other things, things I couldn't get into in depth if I were nailed to a desk from 9-5. So now it is my husband who is sometimes jealous of me and my freedom and time to do whatever I want much of the time. He grumbles about how he has to work while I just can't wait for them all to be gone so I can go about my day in absolute freedom. I feel spoiled now but I also feel like I earned this freedom, earned it by literally being trapped indoors for years.

I occasionally attempt to get the house cleaned but we're a fairly messy lot with tons of hobbies and numerous projects that are strewn all over the place. My house has never been a "show home." If there is a way to get the house cleaning down to 15 minutes a day I haven't learned it. I've always got a mountain of laundry and other dull chores to do. My husband knows I'll get to them when I get to them but they're certainly not my priority. I keep up enough so that everyone has clean clothes to wear and I make a point of keeping the kitchen & bathrooms clean. But the rest of the house only gets picked up once a week or so.

I feel blessed to literally have the choice to stay home or work at my choosing. Not everyone has that choice. Everyone should. We'd all be more sane in my humble opinion.