Why
can't they stop being insecure and get some self-confidence again
1069?
It seems that this is Precisely the answer.
There needs to be more of the, "The only person that can heal you is you" kinda philosophy...and most importantly, it needs to be BELIEVED.
Saying women can't stop being jealous and competition with each other over men is like saying men can't stop being violent. Of course both can be whatever they would like to be. It takes time and focus...lots of inner work and such.
