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Originally Posted by WI Crippler  But they aren't a "threat" in person. Thats what I don't get. Its not as if I want to leave my wife for them. I just don't see anything wrong with having a healthy admiration for the female form. |
Let me clarify. She (and women like your wife)
perceives them as a threat when they are there in person. I completely agree with you that they are not a threat, but the fact remains that she perceives them as such due to insecurity about herself or the relationship. It's not uncommon among women, and I just don't get it personally.
If my BF is going to cheat, he's going to cheat. And he's going to do so whether or not I notice him admiring another woman and admonish him for it. In fact, he's probably MORE likely to leave me/cheat if I acted in such an insecure, controlling manner.
I know very well that I'm certainly NOT the most attractive woman in the world. Hell, I'm not the most attractive woman in this city. I'm not the most attractive woman in this building! LOL I know this, I accept it. I'm okay with that because my goal in life is not to be the most attractive woman. I know there are a crapload of extremely sexy, attractive women out there. And you know what? I'm glad! I like looking at them too!
What I also know is that my BF is with ME. And he will remain with me until he chooses not to. And that fact isn't going to change or be affected by his admiration of some random attractive woman. To think that it would be affected by something so natural and benign is insulting to him, to me, and to our relationship.
Additionally, I recognize and understand that admiring an attractive person has nothing at all to do with me, my looks, or our relationship. How do I know this? Well, aside from common sense, I know this because I can look at attractive men and women and it has nothing to do with him, my feelings for him, or our relationship. So why wouldn't the same apply to him?
But, that's just me.
